“4 Types of Narcissism Share This Trait”

Narcissism is many faceted and comes in several types. Narcissists will use a variety of tactics and defenses to keep you insecure and ensure their status and their needs are met.It’s easy to be confused, but it’s important to understand and spot which type of narcissistyou’re dealing with. Recently, two research teams have identified a common trait.

The Grandiose Narcissist

Although there are different kinds and degrees of narcissism, for years research mainly focused on the familiar—exhibitionistic narcissists who seek the limelight. These are the boastfulgrandiose narcissistswho are public figures and are recognizable in films. They’redescribedin the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).

We can all spot thosecharming, attention-seeking extraverts whosevanity and boldness are at times obnoxious and shameless. They’re self-absorbed, entitled,callous, exploitative, authoritarian, and aggressive. Some are physically abusive. These unempathetic,arrogant narcissists think highly of themselves, but spare no disdain for others. Helped by their extraversion, they report high self-esteemand satisfaction with their lives, despite the pain they cause others. Because they outwardly seek acclaim, attention, and domination, grandiose narcissism is externalized.Even in love, they seek power bygame-playing. Many do maintain relationships, notwithstanding the lack of intimacyand the unhappiness of their partners, who are easily seduced by their charisma and boldness.

The Vulnerable Narcissist

Lesser known are vulnerable narcissists (also referred to as closet, introverted,or covert narcissists). Like their grandiose kin, they’re self-absorbed, entitled, exploitative, unempathetic, manipulative, and aggressive, butthey fear criticism so much that theyshy away from attention.Individuals of both types of narcissism often lack autonomy, have imposter syndrome, a weak sense of self, are self-alienated, and an inability to master their environment. However, vulnerable narcissists experience these things to a markedly greater extent.

In contrast to grandiose narcissists, rather than feelingconfident and self-satisfied, vulnerable narcissists are insecure andunhappy with their lives.They experience more distress, anxiety, guilt, depression, hypersensitivity, and shame. They’re conflicted, holding bothinflated and negativeirrational views of themselves—the latter which they project onto other people, their lives, and the future. Theirnegative emotionality depicts a bitterneurotic averse to personal growth.They require reinforcement for their grandioseself-image and are highly defensive when perceived criticism triggers their negative opinion of themselves.

Unlike extraverted narcissists, they lack positive relationships. Instead ofboldly dominating people,they’re threat-oriented and distrustful. Their attachment style is more avoidant and anxious. They withdraw from others with hostile blame and resentment, internalizing their narcissism. Empathetic codependents feel sympathetic and want to rescue them from their misery, but end up self-sacrificing and feeling responsible for them.

The Communal Narcissist

Even more difficult to identify is a third type of narcissist only named recently—communalnarcissists.They value warmth, agreeableness, and relatedness. They see themselves and want to be seen by others as the mosttrustworthy and supportive person and try to achieve thisthrough friendliness and kindness. They’re outgoing like the grandiose narcissist. However, whereas the grandiose narcissist wants to beseen as the smartest and most powerful,a communal narcissist wants to be seen as the most giving and helpful. Communal narcissists’ vain selflessness is no less selfish than that of a grandiose narcissist. They both share similar motives for grandiosity, esteem, entitlement, and power, although theyeach employ different behaviors to achieve them.When their hypocrisy is discovered, it’s a bigger fall.

The Malignant Narcissist

Malignant narcissists are considered to be at the extreme end of the continuum of narcissism due to their cruelty and aggressiveness. They’re paranoid, immoral, and sadistic. They find pleasure in creating chaos and taking people down.These narcissistsaren’t necessarily grandiose, extroverted, or neurotic, but are closely related to psychopathy, the dark triad, and anti-social personality disorder.(Houlcroft, et al. (2012)

Fluctuating Ego States

If you have a hard time identifying which type of narcissist you’re dealing with, it might be because grandiose narcissistsoscillatebetween states of grandiosity and vulnerability. For example,grandiose narcissists may show vulnerability and emotionality (usually anger) when their success is thwarted or their self-concept is under attack. Greater grandiosity indicates greater instability and likelihood of fluctuation. There’s little evidence thatvulnerable narcissists exhibit grandiosity.(Edershile& Wright, 2019),(Rhodewalt, et al. 1998)

The Search for the Core of Narcissism

Using new techniques,recent studies have attempted to isolate a singular, unifying trait among narcissists. Researchers examined narcissism by testing distinct personality traits. Two recent models emerged: One is based on personality and the other is an integrative,transactional approach.

The Trifurcated Model

TheTrifurcated Model of Narcissism shows that narcissism centers on three personality traits:Agentic extraversion,disagreeableness, and neuroticism. (Miller, Lynam, et al., 1917) (Agentic extraverts are authoritative and bold go-getters whopursueacclaim, achievement, and leadershippositions.)Of the Big Five personality traits, disagreeableness is the only one common to both types. The model illuminates the core of narcissism to be interpersonal antagonism,shared by grandiose and vulnerable narcissists alike. It’s characterized by manipulation, hostility, entitlement, callousness, and anger. (Kaufman, et al., 2020) Vulnerable and grandiose narcissists express antagonism differently. The formerare more hostile and distrustful, and the latterare more immodest and domineering.

The Spectrum Model

The Narcissism Spectrum Model (NSM) created by Kerzan and Herlache (2017) conceives narcissism as existing on a spectrum from grandiose to vulnerable. It demonstrates how NPD varies in severity and how traits manifest. The model reveals that bothtypes of narcissists share a common psychological core of entitled self-importance.Narcissistsbelieve that they and their needs are special and take precedence over those of others. This core is made up of arrogance, self-involvement, andentitlement. In fact, entitlement is reportedlythe most toxic element in relationships.

Narcissism Spectrum Model

Entitled Self-Importance

Grandiose Narcissists                                          Vulnerable Narcissists

Narcissists’ differing personalities express diverse qualities at various times, this model captures a fluid, functional analysis that is more representative of real life. The greater a person’s grandiosity, the less is their vulnerability and vice versa. More entitlement and risk-takingincreaseprofessionaland interpersonal difficulties. The greater the vulnerability, the further away (lower) is their grandiosity.

Takeaways

In sum, narcissism exists on a spectrum ranging from domineering and extraverted to introverted and neurotic. The core features of narcissism are antagonism, self-importance, and entitlement, making narcissists disagreeable, uncooperative partners and work associates. Because other personality types can be antagonistic, I prefer the Spectrum Model that singles out self-important entitlement as the core of narcissism, thus distinguishing it from sociopathy and borderline personality disorder, among others.

Grandiose narcissists present a mixed bag. While they feel and function better than vulnerable narcissists and can be socially engaging when they choose, their antagonism and entitlement create problems and jeopardize relationships. If they attend psychotherapy, itshould focus on their antagonism and entitlement.

On the other hand, vulnerable narcissists need help managing their perceptions, moods, and emotions. They resemble people with borderline personality disorder and would benefit from dialectical behavioral therapy, whichis effective in reducing antagonism. Schema-focused psychotherapy andcognitive behavioral therapyare helpful for both types to reduce shame and anger.

Whatever type of narcissist you care about, the relationship is hurtful. Rather than getting your needs met, you’re undermined and drained dealing with frequent criticism, callousness, hostility, demands, and entitled expectations. Don’t spend your efforts trying to please or change a narcissist. Instead, start recovery to rebuild your self-esteem and autonomy so you’re more resilient whether you stay or go. If you’re undecided, get some individual psychotherapy, and use the tools in Dealing with a Narcissistto determine the prognosis for your relationship.

© Darlene Lancer 2020

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Thank you very much

Darlene Lancer

www.whatiscodependency.com

 

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