Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy human emotion, but when chronic, explosive anger spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your relationships, your health, and your state of mind. With insight about the real reasons for your anger and these anger management tools, you can learn to keep your temper from hijacking your life.
The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. It’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged. The feeling isn't the problem it's what you do with it that makes a difference. Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or others.
Mr. Umar Raza Complete his Post Magisterial Diploma in Clinical Psychology (PMDCP) from Sarhad University of Information & Technology Peshawar. He worked in District Head Quarter Hospital Faisalabad as Psychologist & Counselor. He worked with addict, psychotic patient and special children. He is interested in clinical psychology, counseling and psycho-diagnostic assessment.
Editor: Talal Zubair
If you have a hot temper, you may feel like it's out of your hands and there's little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. You learn to express your emotions without hurting others and when you do, you’ll not only feel better, you’ll also be more likely to get your needs met. Mastering the art of anger management takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will get. And the payoff can be huge. Learning to control your anger and express it appropriately can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a healthier, more satisfying life.
Three main approaches
1. Expressing: Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive not aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are.
2. Suppressed: Anger can be suppressed. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to suppress your anger and change it in positive behavior.
3. Calming: When you calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to calm yourself down, and let the feelings happy.
Causes: The most common causes of anger are: