Characteristic of adaptability is very important in dealing with fuzzy situations of life. It is simply turning problems into opportunities. According to us we are living in troubled times. One group of people bide their time and hope that future will bring future in their life. Others simply remember the ‘good old days’ when life was uncomplicated and enjoyable. I was reading an editorial of a famous newspaper. It was full of hue and cry. The Government is not delivering its promises. Financial situations are worst than ever. Crime rate is shooting up. People are living in very miserable surroundings. Our country is going through from a very sensitive phase. This newspaper editorial reads life it could have been written last night. But it actually appeared more than fifty years ago. This small snapshot teaches us that all days are similar. It is our ability of adaptability which makes our days better or worse.
We need to learn from ancient Chinese definition of crisis. The symbols for crisis are identical to the opportunities. The best way to adapt to change and lead a prosperous life is to see crises as opportunities.
To develop adaptability to the stress of life, we need to view these stress as normal. Successful people develop mental toughness. It is simply strength of character. It is proven scientifically that failures and crisis in our lives, if adapted to can help get us back on track. They serve as a guard against anxiety, depression and reactive response to stress.
Motivation and adaptability go hand in hand. By definition motivation is “motive in action”. Everyone is motivated a little or a lot to do something. The fears of change or risk hold many people back. Two other kinds of motivation dominate our lives and have much more significant mental and physical effects. One is name as “penalty motivation” and other is “reward motivation”.
Penalty motivation as the name suggests tells us to do something or there will be a price to pay. Reward motivation tells us to go for something because there will be a reward for success. Both of these cause stress. These stresses generated by the motivation then create a wall against adaptability.
Following steps will be of great use to march towards adaptability:-
1. BE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR EMOTIONS:
Guard your emotions and take responsibility for your emotions. When you begin to get annoyed, acknowledge the fact that you own your emotions. Separate yourself from a potentially bad situation, by discussing the factor not the environment. For example “I feel angry when I see that happening” is better than saying. “He make me angry when he does that.”
2. ACCEPT CHANGE AS NORMAL:
View change as routine matter. Constantly analyze and monitor your capacity for change, flexibility, for new ideas and for surprises.
3. ABOLISH ALL OR NOTHING MENTALITY:
Do not get yourself stuck in all or nothing management. If things do not work our as planned retrieve a good situation. Do not be like a perfectionist. It will because you’re to defy your performance continually.
4. DO NOT HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE FOR OTHERS:
Let other people take responsibility for their responses. Never indulge in self blame or false guilt. Construct adaptability into your home and professional life so that courage and flexibility are two solid factors.
5. SIMPLY YOUR LIFE:
Get rid of the non productive activities. Ask right questions from yourself. What is the essence of my life and what do I really want to be spending my time on? Learn to say “no” as if it means “yes”.
This short poem is very inspirational in connection with the importance of adaptability in life. It was written by “Gail Brook Burket”.
“I do not ask to walk smooth paths
Not bear an easy load,
I pray for strength and fortitude
To climb the rock-strewn road,
Give me such courage I can scale
The hardest peaks alone,
And transform every stumbling block,
Into a stepping – stone”