Working with Conflict Avoidant Individuals
Using avoidance to deal with conflicts can have positive and negative implications. When working with these individuals it is helpful to get them considering the pros and cons of avoiding conflicts and then developing a strategy or plan.
Role playing or a plan of action gives the conflict avoidant individual the confidence they need for dealing with the conflict. Assertiveness coaching can also help. Preparatory approaches help to express feelings and thoughts in a manner that is less stressful than talking spontaneously.
Guidelines to consider
It may is difficult to know whether or not one is using avoidance therefore it is helpful to be alert of the signs of avoidance.
Consult your feelings
Avoidance can show itself in subtle ways. When is avoiding when the reason they are not doing something is causing them anxiety.
When stuck between two courses of action, work out the best way to approach it.
Tune in to your thoughts:
Face the difficulties instead of using avoidance. Acknowledge them instead of denying their presence.
When facing our difficulties, it is necessary to pay attention to one’s bad feelings and as a prompt use them to gain more insight to what is happening and clarifying the difficulties by recognizing their presence and think of the next way to overcome it.
Some people may avoid conflict as much as possible. In some situations, avoiding conflict may be effective and fitting. However in other situations avoiding the conflict contributes to the problem and preventing it from being resolved. In order to deal with conflicts successfully, one should know appropriate uses of avoiding as conflict management mode and understand the personality dynamics that influence their choices.