Self esteem in simple words is our self assessment regarding our self worth and importance. When we feel worthy we have high self esteem whereas in case of low self- esteem we feel worthless. Self esteem is a very important aspect of our personality and it either gets strong or weak extensively. It is a combination of self – confidence and self-worthiness. People with low self-esteem are usually self-centered, highly critical and diffident whereas people with high self-esteem are self-confident, goal-oriented, appreciative and contended.
If you are experiencing low self-esteem, follow the following tips to help boost your self esteem:
Do what your inner voice is saying you to do:
Always listen to your inner voice and do accordingly. Often we get influenced by others and hence we fail to get to know what are our wants and needs. If you want to be with someone be with that someone, if you want to have a cup of coffee, drink coffee and if you want to do painting get a brush and start painting. Look for your needs and wants and listen to your heart, body and mind.
Give yourself a good care:
It is very often that we don’t know how to take good care of ourselves rather we spent majority of our life span taking care of others. A mother takes care of her child, a son looks after his parents, a sister takes cares of his brother and a grandmother takes care of her grandchildren. So our whole life span goes on taking good care of our loved ones and in between we forget to identify our wants and needs. Now the most important question is how we can take good care of ourselves as we have never done that before. So here are some suggestions:
- Choose a healthy diet
- Do things that you enjoy most
- Do something that is pending for the last couple of days
- Identify your talent and abilities and do things accordingly
- Spend some quality time over your grooming
- Reward yourself
- Spend quality time with the people you like
- Serve yourself with special meals
- Keep on sharpen the saw i.e. always look forward to improve your skills
Transform pessimistic notions about yourself to optimistic ones:
Many times it happens that people stigmatize us with negative words and we start believing that. For example when people say that we are a loser or we can’t do it we internalize it and thus we keep on repeating that to ourselves again and again. Unexpectedly the people who usually label us are not very far from but from our surroundings include our parents, family, teachers, and friends. Whenever we struggle with anything these messages hit us hard and damages our personality badly.
The best way to overcome these types of unrealistic messages is to start noting them down. Doing this will bring you across two things. Firstly you will see that you have more of negative thoughts about yourself than positive, secondly you always face them when in certain mood like being tired, sick or under stress. Another way is to cross check someone you trust about the certain thought you have about yourself.
As we have pin pointed the negative wrong messages, it’s time to replace them with a positive one. A point to be noticed here is that at any single time we can’t hold two thoughts, hence if we occupy our mind with a positive thought, negative notion won’t take place.
Imagine yourself succeeding in life:
Imagination is a powerful tool and is a great way to help yourself move out of trap of low self-esteem. Imagination is not daydreaming rather it is an outline that if followed leads to reality. See from your mind's eye how you succeed in life and enjoying the payoffs of that success.
In a nutshell, beautifully said by Jim Rohn
“To have an incredible increase in self-esteem, all you have to do is start doing some little thing. You don’t have to do spectacularly dramatic things for self-esteem to start going off the scale. Just make a commitment to any easy discipline. Then another one and another one.”