As a matter of fact, positive thinking would also benefit your mental health a great deal. Peking University study suggests that those with optimistic attitude tend to be far happier and much less anxious. Also, they are better at managing stressful situations as well. In times when things get tough, this positive attitude towards life and situations can give them healthy coping skills and strength to hold their ground.
However, it must be noted that this effect is not unlimited. When a person is really in a situation that is undeniably insecure, this sense or attitude of positivity would not cover up for them for long. Sooner or later, it would erode.
Wenjie Yuan and Lei Wang went a step ahead to test their claims and verify the connection between optimism, insecurity, and mental health. For this purpose, they conducted a survey among a sample of 209 adults who were given questionnaires twice with an interval of couple of months. The questions revolved around different aspects of general insecurity and how the participants felt in situations that felt were threatening.
One of the aspects of the questionnaires was to test how much the participants had the tendency to attribute events of success and failure to external factors. To assess this perspective, questions like the frequency of chance to cause issues in their relationships with friends were asked.
By these questions, it was expected that the participants’ answers would show a pattern of external attribution which would affect the role an optimistic mind would play in reducing their sense of insecurity. In other words, it can be said that external attribution of negative consequences or situations can help to deal with the threat to an individual’s sense of security by taking strength from optimistic attitude.
Wenjie Yuan and Lei Wang look at optimism as something that can be modified. They say that it is a state and not a personality trait; hence, it can be developed or achieved by choice as well.
This perspective is met with some challenges as well. For instance, while a person may motivate himself to keep an optimistic attitude about general anxieties if life, sometimes it is not possible to entirely see the situation in that light. Some part at a subconscious or latent level is always insecure. in such situations of latent or back-of-the-mind insecurity, attributing the triggers to external factors can help to reduce the anxiety or stress caused by it.
So what if your last date did not end the way you’d have liked to, it might would have come to an unsuccessful end because both of you had very different personalities and there was possibly no match or compatibility.
Blaming others is not the key, and self-blame is definitely not the key to having a sense of security in your life. Different situations call for different reasoning. All you have to do is to keep your thoughts straight and your mind positive. Insecurity would soon be out of the window.