Happy people do not do a lot of things in their lives. They do not spent time in channelizing their energies in negative ways, they avoid expressing anger, they cultivate optimism in their own lives as well as in the lives of others, they avoid practicing rigidness, they focus to nurture their loving relationships, they have always meaningful goals in their lives But they ALWAYS…
1. Mind own business.
They simply don’t pay attention what others are doing .Most of the time the reason we encounter with insecurity is because we compare our self with behind-the-scenes circumstances. We always focus on the suggestions of outer world rather focusing on our inner voice. So stop the comparisons! Ignore the distractions. Listen to your own inner voice.
2. Don’t seek validation of self-worth from others.
If you are feeling contented to yourself everyone respect you because you are trying to connect with others rather impressing them or comparing with them. And when you become contented you starts respecting yourself as well and this is the precious thing one could has in life.
3. Don’t rely on other people and external events for happiness.
Happiness lies within the person but if you are not happy it means there is a gap between what you have now and what you think you need to be. We don’t need anyone else’s permission to be happy. As soon as you stop making everyone and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be. If you’re not feeling good, it’s not someone else’s fault. Take full responsibility for your own unhappiness, and you will instantly gain the ability to be happier.
4. Don’t hold on to resentment.
Let decide today you stop being haunted by the ghosts of past memories. Your past is your close chapter. Sometimes we linger on the pain of past events which hurt us by taking wrong decisions, feelings of resentment urge us to relive the same pain over and over, and we have a hard time letting go.
Forgiveness is the remedy of all our wounds of past hurts. It allows us to focus on the future without condemning the past. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved. These phenomena we called letting go.
5. Don’t spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments.
Without the healthy environment we can’t make the healthy choices and if fail to make healthy choices our life become difficult, and bored. So protect your spirit and potential from contamination by limiting your time with negative people and the environments they inhabit.
Even when you’re alone, create a positive mental space for yourself. Make it a point to give up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just a few of them that have been troubling you, and see how doing that changes your life. You don’t need negative thoughts. They are all lies. They solve nothing. All they have ever given you is a false self that suffers for no reason.
6. Don’t resist the truth.
It is a deathtrap when we spend our lives learning how to lie with others, because eventually these lies grow so strong in our minds that we become bad at seeing, telling and living our own truth. If you resist the truth, you will live a lie every day as the lies pollute your thoughts every night. Be courageous to face the truth in every aspect of life by trying to come out from your comfort zone.
7. Don’t Act Jealous
There is no reason for a happy person to feel jealous from others. , they take pleasure in their success and celebrate their accomplishments .They do not compare themselves to others in the things which they don’t have since they are more than likely content with themselves.
8. Don’t Have Expectations
One of the biggest challenges we face in life is learning to accept people as it is Unrealistic expectations will, can and most often do lead to disappointment. Do not expect things out of situations just go into them with an open mind.
9. Don’t Take Things Personally
Take a moment to think when you hear a comment that you think is directed at you. Do not over analyze the situation abruptly, First seek to understand then to be understood and let the other person speak freely. Listen completely to what this person is saying – selective hearing is the cause of misinterpretations. And suppose if the comment is for you then see the things in big picture and from the other perspectives as well, your self esteem should not be depended on the petty comments of others.