Our attachment styles affect thinking, behaviors and interaction with others. Human being are agitated for attachment for example, babies began to cry when their mother separated from them. Early childhood experiences and other environmental factors shape our attachment styles. It depends especially upon mother’s interaction with her child in early stages of development.
Miss Afreen Naseemcompleted M.Phil from Institute of Clinical Psychology. After completion of study she worked at Pakistan Institute of Learning and Living as a Research Assistant/Clinical Psychologist. Her skills are in the domain of Psychotherapy Psychological and IQ assessment, Interview and History Taking, skilled in Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Rational Emotive Behavioral therapy and Family therapy.She had an internship experience in Karachi Psychiatric Hospital and PNS Shifa Hospital as an Internee Clinical Psychologist.
Editor: Hameeda Batool
Luckily, usually people attachment styles are secure because it nourishes survival. It determines our safety and motivates us to help others in threatening situations. A mother feel anxious when she didn’t find her child in home, it indicates her attachment and bonding with her child. Mostly three attachment styles people generally use when interact with their loved one, relatives and friends.
- Around 50 percent of the population use Secure Attachment.
- 20 percent population having Anxious Attachment.
- Avoidant Attachment use by 25 percent people in general.
- Secure versus Anxious or Anxious versus Avoidant are 3 to 5 percent in population.
People who use secure attachment bonding are warmth and loving by nature, they are able to make intimate relationships without having worries or creating misunderstandings. They accept their partner or spouse mistakes courageously and treat them with love, care and respect. People with secure attachment don’t manipulate, their conversations are open and direct, they assertively share their views, needs and feelings. They always try to fulfill needs and demands of their partner and put an effort to make them happy. They are having good sense of self-esteem, they don’t personalize thing on themselves and accept criticism openly. Hence, they take defensive side during any argument or conflict. Despite of exaggerate a problem they believe to resolve it through table talk, forgiving and apologizing.