Planting the seed
The intervention probable isn’t the first time that you raised the topic of rehab with your addicted loved one, but gathering everyone together and making your loved one’s addiction the center of everyone’s attention will create an impression. It’s something they will remember and feel about in moments when they doubt their choices and wish that they weren’t living with an addiction and those moments will come.
Prioritizing other family membersWhen there is a disease of addiction in a family, everyone else’s problems move to the back burner. When the addicted family member is forced to decide between going to rehab and moving out, and they choose moving out, it’s tough for everyone but the rest of the family members benefit from the striking stability and calm.
Breaking codependent behaviors
For an addicted family member to have remained in the house this long, approximately everyone else in family has to engage in a codependent relationship with the addicted person in order to function. These types of relationships are dysfunctional, and subsiding on after an intervention – letting everyone to go their different ways – will give everyone the gift of freedom from codependency.
Prepare for Fallout
Addiction is a powerful disease that affects the emotional component of the brain, and setting consequences and withdrawing help is not what the addict wants to hear. After he or she refuses treatment, nearly all addicts will try to manipulate love ones into supporting them again. This may be through fake promises (“I swear I have stopped using on my own”), threats and warnings (“I will never talk to you again in life”), emotional appeals (“If you loved and cared for me you would understand”), false justifications (“I was never addicted, but I have stopped using”) and a variety of other strategies. These appeals are very hard to resist, but do not loosen your resolve. A person who is addicted cannot turn off their need to use on their own- they should seek treatment. Unless violent threats are made, overlook this emotional blackmailing and firmly stick to the consequences. This is the principles of tough love.
Planning for the next one
If your addicted loved one comes back to you, you have the opportunity to again offer them treatment. Whenever they come to you for money or ask you to bail them out of a terrible situation, your reply can be an invitation into addiction treatment rehab. You never know when they’ll say “yes” – and it all started with that first intervention when you set your ground and spoke your mind.
Don’t blame yourself
Before making any additional effort to get your loved one into addiction rehab treatment, it’s essential that you remember this. Otherwise, the common pattern of excuses, denial, and blame will drag you right back in, causing your attempts to fail once again. On top of that, your anger, bitterness, and sense of hopelessness might hamper your desire and willingness to help. While the most fundamental reaction in circumstances like these is to help in any way possible, there can be a fine line between providing help and enabling. Compassionate offers to help your loved ones can also be met with resistance.