Follow Through on Consequences
Many people with the disease of addictions perceive consequences as unfilled threats. When your loved one refuses treatment, set strict consequences. This can be something as light as taking away internet privileges or taking away drugs or alcohol form the household. Sometimes more radical consequences are needed such as: moving out, taking away visitation rights, and/or make contact with facilities. Effective consequences vary by person and severity of the disease of the addiction. They should all matter enough that they encourage an addict who refuses treatment to reconsider and ultimately agree to enter rehabilitation. Whatever boundaries you set, you must stick to them. The addict must understand that his or her substance abuse has wide ranging consequences.
Take Care of Yourself
Eventually, you can only control your own actions and behaviors. If your loved one will not accept help, you have a choice to make. Through this entire process consider to take care of your own needs. Join a support group to share your experiences with others. Relieving yourself to people who understand you can be a powerful and healing process. Take time to exercise, eat healthy, get enough sleep, and cope with your stress. If you want to keep making an effort to influence your loved one to get help, you have to be physically and mentally well yourself.
Never lose hope
Before you lose hope, remind yourself that thousands of people have the same problem and walk in your shoes. Thousands of so-called "hopeless” and “helpless” drug addicts go into drug rehab treatment programs every single day – and they finish treatment clean and stay sober. Far more often than not, the motive they finally got into drug rehab treatment was because a spouse, family member, or friend refused to quit on them. In fact, it’s a very exceptional addict who can get clean entirely on his or her own.
Consulting facilities Who Specialize in Addiction
In addition to interventions and support groups, an additional strategy that families and friends of addicts who refuse help can practice is to contact facilities who specialize in treating addiction. These facilities can offer a wealth of treatment and intervention resources and are frequently staffed by addiction treatment professionals who often are recovering addicts themselves.
This will be a tough time for you. Know that you are not merely freeing yourself from the destruction and the disease of addiction, but you are pushing your loved one towards recovery. Although he or she refuses treatment at the moment, doesn’t mean they will in the coming future. In the meantime, don’t let addiction take over your life. Practice tough love principles and get help for your psychological and emotional well being.