Using family and loved ones:

Making you feel guilty about children; using visitation to harass you; threatening to take the children away.

Abusing authority:

Treating you like a servant; making all big decisions; performing like the ‘master of the castle’; being the one to define roles in the relationship.

Using economic abuse:

Making you ask for money; giving you an allowance; taking your money; not letting you know about or have access to family income.

Healthy Relationships

Negotiation and fairness:

Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict; accepting change; being willing to compromise.

Non-threatening behavior:

Talking and acting so that you feel safe and comfortable expressing yourself and doing things.


Listening to you non-judgmentally; being emotionally affirming and understanding; valuing opinions.

Trust and support:  

Supporting your goals in life; respecting your right to your own feelings, friends, activities and opinions.

Honesty and accountability:

Accepting responsibility for self; acknowledging past use of violence; admitting being wrong; communicating openly and trustfully.

Shared responsibility:

Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work; making family decisions together.

Economic partnership:

Making money decisions together; making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements.



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