From our childhood till we are grown ups, someone always teaches us what is good and what is bad. We listen to them, take the instructions and keeps on improving ourselves. This is how we become successful individuals. Constructive criticism should always be encouraged as it results in quality performance and is always the need of time. It is important to mention here that the constructive criticism should both be taken and must be given as it shows your concern towards others and hence develops a give and take relationship resulting in opening room for improvement.
It is a human nature that we don’t appreciate if someone criticizes us and we feel bad about it, but the reality is that we have to face the criticism on every day basis. So the end result is that the ball is always in our court and it always depend upon us how we take it. Though it’s true that every criticism we receive is not genuine but approaching directly to the results is not a good way out. Without considering the criticism appropriately it can result hazardous.
Following are some of the vital strategies, which help in taking criticism positively:
- The first and foremost important element of receiving a criticism positively is to listen. In an office setting we need to understand that our seniors are more experienced than us and if they are giving us any feedback than that carries weight and it’s credible. Always try to take people positive believing that they are on your side and give them the benefit of doubt.
- The second vital element while receiving criticism is to clarify. Whenever we face criticism we often react in a way that someone is trying to offend us and thus we try our best to turn the table, resulting in negative energy shadowing our positive energy. What we should do is to focus on what the counter party is saying to us. Getting into a crucial conversation is advisable so that we decode the message appropriately and improve ourselves exactly the way other party is advising us.
- Most of the times we confuse ourselves with emotions rather than suggestions. It is important to ignore the tone and styles of criticism rather concentrate on what’s the hidden message for us. For example if your boss is suggesting you something with anger than at your part you should ignore the emotion of anger and concentrate only on the suggestion delivered to you.
- It’s a human nature that we always look forward to praise and feel worthy when someone talks good about us. On the other end if someone criticizes we feel dejected and something we never look upon. Facing the reality, we miss the opportunity to improve ourselves without realizing that the flattering words told to us are more fake than the criticism we received. Hence the solution is to always keep yourself open to constructive criticism and always appreciate suggestion. Always value criticism.
- “Ignorance is bliss”- an all time famous quote fits perfectly when it comes to receiving an unhealthy criticism. It is possible that the criticism you receive is not justified, hence the best possible way to handle such criticism is to ignore. Often it could be a painful experience for us but the solution is to stay aloof and maintain your dignity. We should not at all waste our energies on such type of criticism.
- Give yourself some time before you react. This is because we deal with emotions and reacting immediately can make us regret in future. Take a bird’s eye view of the situation and the criticism, use your brain more than your emotions and then take a wise decision accordingly.
- Smile is a very power tool that if used effectively can make the situation smooth. Also it has positive effect psychologically as well as it helps both the parties to reasonably use their approach.
- Have the benefit of getting failed and criticized by others. This way you will always look forward to improve yourself and it always makes you think one step ahead. Always remember that the top space is always empty and criticism helps in filling that space.
In a nutshell,
“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things” – Winston Churchill