Unhealthy Relationships often leaves us with unhealthy feelings of being uncomfortable, sad and afraid. It’s hard to admit when someone isn’t treating us well or respectfully, especially when that person is a lover. This doesn’t mean if someone treats you badly or you have a disagreement, then those relationships are automatically tagged unhealthy. Disagreements do happen in healthy relationships as well. What makes a relationship healthy is being able to compromise when disagreements occur.
Lack of respect:
In a happy relationship, both partners need to respect each other. They make promises to each other and keep them, and they avoid speaking ill of each other’s shortcomings just to feel better about them.
Insecurities are common at the start of a new relationship where both partners are still learning about each other, their ex relationships and their friends. But in an unhealthy romance, insecurity prevails all the time, even when the relationship passes the infatuation stage.
A controlling person is just not cut out for a happy relationship, unless they make the effort to change. A relationship is about balance and understanding between two lovers. And it isn’t about being dominated by one partner. If one partner takes most of the decisions or always does things their way, it’s a sure sign of a bad and unhealthy relationship.
Unhealthy Relationship’s Characteristics
Using emotional abuse:
Putting you down; calling your names; playing mind games; humiliation; making you feel guilty; making you think you are crazy; making you feel bad about yourself.
Using coercion and threats:
Making and/or carrying out threats of hurting you; threatening to leave you, threatening to commit suicide.
Making you afraid by using looks, actions, gestures; smashing things; destroying your property and displaying weapons.
Controlling what you do, who you see and talk to, what you read where you go; limiting your outside involvement; using jealousy to justify actions.
Minimizing, denying and blaming:
Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously; shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying you caused it.