Lately, I’ve been thinking about the meaning and mission of Weightless. I know that some of you have been reading my blog for a few years, others are new readers, maybe some have even stayed with me since the very beginning, November, 2009.
The name “Weightless” was suggested by my close friend Jenny. I wanted something that conveyed my belief that our weight doesn’t dictate our self-worth, that we’re whole and good and enough regardless of the number on the scale and the food we eat, that we don’t need to internalize our society’s ridiculous infatuation with thinness. And so “Weightless” was born.
Margarita Tartakovsky is an associate editor at PsychCentral.com, an award-winning mental health website, and the voice behind Weightless, a blog that helps women deal with body image issues and disordered eating. She also writes a monthly feature for Beliefnet.com, covering topics such as patience and procrastination.
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As the years have passed, this blog, like most projects, has shifted and evolved. I wanted to share what Weightless means to me. Today.
- Weightless is beauty, well-being and health in all shapes, sizes and weights.
- Weightless is listening to your body. This can mean anything from eating when you’re hungry to getting rest when you’re tired to taking several deep breaths when you’re stressed.
- Weightless is flexibility, in all areas of our lives, including what we eat and how we build our days.
- Weightless is not being shackled to a scale. It’s not letting what we weigh drive how we feel about ourselves and how we feel about our lives.
- Weightless is self-care. Like I read recently, self-care is self-preservation — not a selfish or unattainable luxury.
- Weightless is forgiveness. Forgiveness for treating ourselves or others badly. For overeating or forgetting to listen to our bodies.
- Weightless is curiosity. Curiosity about ourselves, who we are. What we like to eat. What we like to do. What makes us happy and excited and fulfilled.
- Weightless is imperfection. I used to think that being a body image blogger meant that I loved my body. Every. Single. Day. I didn’t, and I felt like a failure. But then I realized that hey, that just means I’m a human being. We can’t be happy all the time. We can’t be energized or tired or nervous or relaxed continuously. We get lost. And we find our way. Those bad body image days have something to teach us. We just need to be open and listen.
- Weightless is moving your body, on your own terms. Whatever feels right and fun and soothing and invigorating and wonderful to you.
- Weightless is questioning our culture’s preoccupation with weight, dieting and thin at all costs.
- Weightless is asking yourself what you need and then providing it.
- Weightless is giving thanks for the blessings of our bodies.
- Weightless is going beyond conversations about calories and body bashing. Instead, it’s enjoying meaningful, interesting or funny conversations.
- Weightless is permission. Permission to enjoy eating. Permission to be imperfect. Permission to leave a conversation that doesn’t feel right. Permission to let go of relationships that don’t feel right. Permission to wear the clothes you love. Permission to take great care of yourself without changing a thing about yourself.
- Weightless is learning what works for you and what doesn’t.
- Weightless is treating yourself like a close friend. It’s working to build a healthy relationship with yourself.
- Weightless is pursuing your dreams and leading a fulfilling life, without waiting ’til the scale supposedly says you can.
- Weightless is realizing that even though you might be in a terrible place with your body image, you won’t always be here. You can learn to be kinder to yourself. You can build a more positive body image. You can cultivate healthier and more nourishing habits. I hope this blog — in a small way — helps you get started.