Worry is not only bad for us, but it also wastes time and energy. Think about how worry affects our personality. Not only has it mingled up with thinking and behavior. Feelings of individual and physical gestures are also at stake. Worry is so common that it is tempting to ask whether it serves a useful function. One reason why it is so difficult to stop worrying is because one has a suspicion that some good may come of it, and this suspicion is hard to ignore. Even though individuals might say to themselves and to others- stop worrying. It is pointless. It won’t do any good. Worrying will get you nowhere there is still something compelling about the processes that make it hard to give up. Worry could alert us to the possibility that something is wrong. Worry is useful if it makes us sit up and take notice. It is not useful to be paralyzed with fear; worry can goad you into action. It makes us feel until we do something about it. It is like starting to study before an exam. Be sure about the fact worry is useful provided it is turned into a strategy for action. Worrying something is often rather a vague and unfocused process compassed with having livid and alarming images. It is like asking yourself. What if they have had an accident or thoughts similar to that?
Naila described herself as a born worrier. She had worried about exams when she was at school, about what other people thought of her and about starting her career in a small publishing business. She was sure that others could see how anxious or nervous she was and that none of them had similar worries. Even when she realized that everyone worries from time to time, this was of no help to her own worries tended to dominate her life to such an extent that she was never free from worry. She worried about whether she was doing her job right, whether she would be promoted, whether others would recognize her abilities or ignore them.
Research suggests that there is a genetic component that affects our vulnerability to worry. It is also widely believed by experts in the field, that experiences in childhood affect our tendency to worry, although firm evidence for this is lacking.
There are three things which are not worth worrying about but which account for the majority of all worrier: the unimportant, the unlikely and the unresolved. Ban and eradicate these from your life, and you will waste little time in worrying.
Here are some simple actions that demands actions in order for letting worries go:
Turn worries into actions: – There are two types of things not worth worrying about: that you can do something about; and those that you can’t. First step is to turn your worries into problems and then develop strategies for solving them.
Graphic Representation: – Below mentioned tree like graphic is a structured way of solving the worry problem. By this way a branching series of questions help to let the worry drop. There are three questions to ask yourself. The first one____ “What am I worrying about?” The second one___ “Is there anything I can do about this?” The last one is____ “Is there anything I can do tight now?”
A beautiful quote of John Jay Chapman seals the show “People get so in the habit of worry that if you save them from drowning and put them on a bank to dry in the sun with hot chocolate and muffins they wonder whether they are catching a cold.”