On the other side, being too hard on one’s self also backfires and one tends to find themselves putting the important things off and pursuing the unimportant tasks. This also has an element of self criticism; hence the factor of self-blame and low self-esteem aggravates the procrastination. One study done on this topic showed that those who show self-forgiveness have a better tendency to overcome this problem and prepare better for coming exams.
Counter intuitively, those who opt to see themselves through negative lens, and selected self-critical statements, they still did not prepare well for coming tests. Hence, being too hard on one’s self does not drive to improve the performance in any way. On the contrary the guilt produced by self blame only makes the procrastination behavior aggravate.
A lot of the times we run after the illusion of perfectionism. We try to do things to the best of our possible potential. This often leads to repeating the task instead of driving t to a closure or completion. Hence the final outcome or results are only delayed.
Perfectionism is also in no way helping us do our tasks better. Rather we find ourselves to be stuck in obsessive behavior and constant repetition of actions. This is also visible in binge eating, conflicts between different facets of our personality, and avoiding doing the tasks all together.
Consequently, when you don’t reach a completion point, there is no sense of achievement and this leads to low self esteem and depressive feelings. Such feelings, as already discussed above, lead you to increase procrastination.
Instead of perfectionism, focus on productivity. If you think that I need to finish writing an assignment in one day only, it may not be possible at time. On the other hand, focus on productivity will help you achieve the goal of task completion, even in small chunks and multiple attempts.
Many a times we rush towards just getting the job at hand done. But have you even wondered about something that “Why do I need to do this?” “What is the importance of this task?”
Wondering about the intricacies and understanding the value of things we do not only makes us more mindful about them but also motivates us out of a sense of purpose. We realize that de-cluttering the cupboard is important for a more organized living.
Realizing the importance of things we do also gives us a chance to do it with more willingness and genuineness. When we commit to doing something, procrastination has a lesser chance of interfering in the process.
All these subtle behaviors slip into our daily routines without us realizing. We struggle with other more obvious reasons like spending time on social media but they are not so difficult to change as these more inherent perspectives and beliefs. So put more attention and focus on bringing change in these aspects and you will see improvement in your ability to achieve things.