building relationship
The key to building and sustaining healthy relationships is to understand the aspects that lead to effective communication and success in conflict resolution.  Like children relationships need to be fostered consistently. There is a need to make it safe for each other to openly communicate and express feelings. Otherwise things tend to lead towards aggression and misunderstanding. This applies to all kinds of relationships, ranging from loved ones to employers and employees. This article will elaborate on the factors that promote effective communication and offer simple, yet valuable techniques for conflict resolution and building healthy relationships.

Listening with intention is the first tool one must have in their toolbox. It goes to suggest offering undivided attention with empathy, maintaining eye contact, and maintaining congruent body language while communicating with your fellow. One should be mindful and negate any distractions to listen with intention. Make it part of your routine to engage in mindful inquiry on a daily basis.

Emphasis should also be placed on showing and doing small acts of kindness in a relationship even if it is for formality. In other words, it is also courtesy or respect in disguise. This could mean smiling warm heatedly at your colleague, or letting your father take most comfortable sofa in the living room.

Another important quality in effective communication is to avoid assumptions and presumptions. Don’t be judgmental of what other people have to say, learn to look at situations empathetically. People convey feeling, meaning and beliefs if you are ready to understand them. So don’t let yourself get in the way of listening to others. Do this mindfully, you will end up having a very healthy relationship.

Conflicts can create resentments that last a very long time. Avoidance may seem to be an appropriate technique here but it won’t work for long. Instead, build skills to resolve conflicts while keeping yourself composed. The simple trick you can use here is empathy. It is to be able to place oneself in other person’s shoes. This on its own can make all the difference in creating a strong sense of mutual understanding. If one party is suffering, be rest assured the other side isn’t happy either. The technique is to show patience and take a pause to think in the heat of emotions and review what you are about to say.

During a conflict people have the tendency to target each other’s character rather than addressing the main issue. Taking blows at each other can mean lasting damage, so be sure to stay focused rather than bringing up old resentments. If you love someone, hurting them will mean hurting yourself so be ready to compromise and argue fair.

Without compromise and flexibility, relationships don’t last. So be prepared to give in in order to gain some. Don’t just argue for the sake of it. Think of improving your relationship through creating a win-win situation for both parties.

In order to nurture human relationships we must fulfill each others needs. Sometimes they are right in front of us and sometimes we are clueless. We must ask what is it that I can do to make you feel better? Keep your intentions clear and effort strong, and your relationship will definitely strengthen.

Human relationships majorly consist of a give and take circle, based on conditions. Some relationships are unconditional like parents and children, but even they rely on support from each other to run a successful family unit. Nobody can function in seclusion;humans are a social animal who must synergize to grow. Even though, at times one partner may demand more from the other, in healthy relationships efforts are balanced out in the long run.

Lastly it is essential to practice self care and be a person other want to be around. It is absolutely crucial to remain positive and smiling in front of other people. If you are in the habit of nagging and complaining all the time people will not enjoy your company. If your able to truly invest your time in others they will be encouraged to spend their time with you allowing the relationship to grow.

By Saad Shaheed & Ruhan Sana