In this article, you can identify the 15 practices, beliefs and habits that may be preventing you from being happy. Here is a list of 15 things, which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and you’ll feel much, much happier. Well, not anymore. Starting today, we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. 

muhibzahraGive up your need to always be right. In my opinion, by holding this belief, we can’t stay happy and enjoy healthy relationships with people around us. It could create intense pain and stress in our life. So change your belief in order to be happy. The world needs our love and help rather than our judgments.

Give up your need for control. I think, allowing others to be who they are – is freeing you of the constant control, constant worry, and constant anger.  People have their own way of doing things. Our way isn’t the only way to do it and their way isn’t wrong or right.

Give up on blame. Our lives are the results of the choices, we make so we can’t blame anyone for anything that happens to us. We need to take responsibility for our thoughts, emotions and actions. If we don’t like our life, it’s time to take some better choices.

Give up your self-defeating self-talk.  It is very important for us to realize the power of our thoughts and the impact they have on the quality of our lives and how they are actually affecting the level of our happiness, and once that will happen, we will pay closer attention to the thought that run through our mind and to the things that we tell ourselves on a regular basis. Many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset.

Give up your limiting beliefs. Our beliefs have the power to create and destroy. Our limiting beliefs are like big brick walls blocking us on our path to freedom, happiness, and success.  We all have them; it’s just a matter of learning how to work through them when they arise. When you rid yourself of limiting beliefs, anything you want in life becomes possible. 

Give up complaining.  Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. It makes you feel sad, unhappy and depress. Nobody can make you unhappy; no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.

Give up the luxury of criticism. We should try to give up the need to criticize events, things and people around us in order to stay happy.  We all have individual differences and we can develop the attitude of respect towards each other’s differences.  We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. 

Give up your need to impress others. Impressing other people should always be a side-effect of the way you live life, not the main goal. Strive to impress yourself instead of others. This means setting your appearance, communication style and goals towards what you see as being ideal. 

Give up your resistance to change. Make change in your friends and don’t resist it. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. Each person’s task in life is to become an increasingly better person. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you.

Give up labels. Let’s stop labeling people, things and events because they are not like us. Always remember that, never treat others the way, you don’t want to be treated. Labels are bad. When we put a label to someone, we immediately shut our system to only attributing the person to characteristics that may only apply to a minor part of their lives.

Give up on your fears. You have to let go of your fear to catch your destiny. Face your fear and try and win the battle. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

Give up your excuses.  Stop making excuses. If something is important to you, you will definitely find a way, if it is not, you will find an excuse. Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you want different results in your life, all you have to do is change your mind. Using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time, are not even real.

Give up the past.  No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future.  Look for something positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder. After all, life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

Give up attachment. The reason many people in our society are miserable, unhappy, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things and people they have no control over. We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things. We often cling to things, situations or people because we’re comfortable with them. We know how they’ll make us feel, whether it’s happy or safe. Consider that new things, situations and people may affect you the same. 

Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Listen to your inner-voice. We only have one, short life, so make the most of it. If you are tired of living your life according to other people’s goals, it’s time to take a stand and tell the world, ‘It is my life’. Many people live their lives according to what others think are best for them. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need… and eventually, they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.