Life has many purposes but without any aim and objective life is meaningless and not worth living. Everyone wants to be safe, loved, cared and accepted these needs is in our DNA. We need to rationalize our thought what we have in our lives, what we to be fulfill, what is necessary what is not these are the basic issues we should clear for better living.

Darlene-Lancer1Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist. She is a relationship expert and author of “Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Codependency and Shame: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You,” as well as five ebooks.. Her articles have been published widely in professional and popular periodicals. She has worked extensively in the field of addiction and codependency. Her philosophy is to encourage each person to determine their own abstinence and treatment objectives. Her work is informed by training in Self-Psychology, Voice-Dialogue, Dream Analysis, Jungian Therapy, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, Somatic Work, EFT.

Editor: Samreen Masaud

Sometimes the person who tries to make everyone happy is the most lonely person

We avoid the realities of life that is why we suffer a lot because of our own lacking areas, we ignore ourselves to make others happy. We put an extra effort to smile others in different settings:

  • At work place
  • In social settings
  • Peer groups
  • Strangers and many others but here we don’t realize to please God.

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Stop pleasing people start pleasing God

People pleasers want everyone should revolves around them and they will do whatever they expect from others. According to Susan Newman; A Social Psychologist and Author of the Book “How to communicate, Take an initiative to stop people pleasing”.


Some people pleases others because they feel that through this they can seek satisfaction this can generate to habit, “it’s almost an addiction that makes them feel like they need to be needed every time”. This makes them feel significant and like they are “participating to someone else’s life”. We give and give to our partner, but feel like their is no feedback from partner’s side and our needs and desires aren’t considered. Because in every relationship their is a reciprocal attachment and if this would not be fulfilled a person feels bored, lethargic, joyless and life without any hope and purpose.


God created you:

  • On purpose
  • With purpose
  • For a purpose
  • Purpose to be who
  • God created you to be