Be firm or stand on your stand is basic element and necessity of addiction treatment. In addiction treatment rely on triangle that is patient, family and addiction center (professionals). When all three parties are firm on their stand and co-operate well it is golden triangle. Researches indicates families of in drug addiction treatment mostly loss their firmness and cause of relapse. Basic rule for the better outcome in the addiction treatment for professionals and family is be firm on their stance and not change it. To be firm on your stance is not a difficult but it is a skill and artful. After proper scientific training and management families can learn that how to be firm at their stances in recovery.

Problems in standing on their stance occur when parents who seek professional help for the treatment of their addicted child assume that the professionals will fix the problem on their own. It is their misconception due to which they have to face adverse consequences. Despite the fact that the treatment of addiction is done in a rehabilitation center and the patients are facilitated with counseling however, eventually they have to go back to their homes.  Hence, there are chances that the patient’s interaction at home and the availability of drugs in the surroundings can ruin the efforts of the professionals’ altogether.  This is the reason why parents training during the treatment and the patient’s regular follow ups play a vital role.

Jafar-Ali-2Mr. Jafar Ali is MS in Clinical Psychology from Government College University, Lahore. He did MSc in Applied psychology from Institute of Applied Psychology University of the Punjab. Jafar has served as a trainee clinical psychologist at the adult psychiatry ward of Services Hospital Lahore for and Mayo Hospital Lahore, during which time he conducted detailed assessment and management sessions with clients afflicted with a range of psychological disorders. Jafar is expert in CBT, REBT and Behavior therapy. He employs an eclectic approach towards therapy.

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Keeping the nature, importance and their relevant consequences in mind, we can categorize stands in three types i.e. red stands, yellow stands, and green stands. Red stands hold great importance for the parents but at the same time they find it difficult to convince their child to follow them for example, asking them to quit drugs, stopping them from spending money carelessly, telling them to come home early at night, refraining them from meeting slippery friends etc. When parents address these stands to their children, they create crisis which are intense in nature because the patients find it very difficult to comply their demands. Yellow stands are relatively less important than red stands. Showing compliances to these stands is difficult for the patient but the crisis in result of it is not much intense for example, asking them to take their meals on time, assigning them small household responsibilities such as grocery, shopping, pick and drop etc.


Green stands are lowest in intensity and these are the easiest to follow.  For example, asking the patients to invite their friends for dinner, asking them to watch a particular show, asking them to get you a glass of water etc. If you are of aware of the fact that your patient will react on red and yellow stand then you need to go for the green stands first. When you take green stands more frequently, the patient is more inclined towards showing compliance. Since, these stands are ordinary in nature, hence the patients show compliance more quickly and easily. Consequently, they are no more taken as stands. Rather, they become a part of their attitude, behavior, and routine. If you take consecutive red stands and your child acts upon it, then you are prepared to take yellow stands. And when you start taking 10 consecutive yellow stands then you will be able to take one red stand with the cooperation of other family members.