Worrisome thoughts prepare breeding ground for anxiety, a feeling of fear or dread. Such thoughts are usually negative in nature, used by us to desperately try and avoid any threat or event. On the contrary, little does it help, making the matters worse.
Just like stress, worrying becomes a problem when our reaction/response to a particular stimulus becomes abnormally amplified. As long as it is optimum, just to keep us going, it is helpful for us. The problem starts when we get overwhelmingly obsessed by these worrisome thoughts, and as a direct result, we become paralyzed. When a person is anxious, his entire focus shifts towards all the bad things that have happened or have been happening, forgetting all the positive things.
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The high levels of anxiety drain us of our emotional energy reserves and start disrupting our daily life routine. It can take a heavy toll on our health. Constant worrying is a twin edged blade. On one hand we do understand that worrying is harmful for us, affecting our physical health, is bothering us, is keeping us awake, and that we have failed to kick these thoughts out of our head. At the same time we also believe that worrying helps us prevent problems, bad things from happening, problem solving etc. Hence worrying starts making sense to us.
It turns out to be a vicious cycle because negative beliefs, or worrying about worrying, fuels our anxiety and keeps us worrying more.
It is challenging to break this cycle of worrying. We might keep telling ourselves to stop worrying, but it’s counterproductive, making our worrisome thoughts more strong and persistent. But that doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can do to control your worry. You just need to try a different approach. This is where the strategy of postponing worrying comes in. Learn to postpone worrying. Postponing worrying is effective because it breaks the habit of dwelling on worries in the present moment. As you develop the ability to postpone your anxious thoughts, you’ll start to realize that you have more control over your worrying than you think.
Most of the times we worry about the future. Since future is uncertain, we are compelled to worry even more. When someone finds himself worrying about a future event because he/she are picturing a negative outcome, one believes that one can predict the future certainly. But, the fact is, one can’t be certain about future which in itself is so uncertain and we are worrying about what may happen, not what will happen. Worry itself serves no purpose unless it spurs a plan of action.