RESILIENCE AND RESENTMENT:
An ability to regain from or regulate yourself easily from difficult circumstances.
by: (Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary).
Resentment is a most powerful, negative emotion signified by a feeling of unfair treatment. A deep feeling of unease formed as an outcome of not attaining what a person I required for. It’s a feeling of giving a setback to oneself over actions of others. Resentment is a feeling of helplessness and of having no control over things, this feeling and leads towards passive aggression and it stays for years. Some of them feel that being resentful at one time or another, this emotion becomes consistent. Resentment which are severe acts as a magnet in future. It destructs and distorts thinking so that each new fore happening of perceived unfairness turns into deep down failure for a person. Resentment is something which builds up. It is a higher level feeling, more powerful, leads to intense dislike and the hostility can then lead to instigate to destroy and damage. What is needed for this continuous chain of unpleasant events and the state of feelings and injustice without any relief or personal self-dignity and self-growth. And exactly what has happened in the scenario of terrorism and assault.
Miss Rabia Zaidi is working as a Clinical Psychologist in Willing Ways Karachi. She has graduated from highly reputed College D.A Degree College for Women (DHA) in 2011, after completing a Bachelor of Arts degree in Library & Information Science, Education and Urdu Advance with First Division and a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She is interested in Educational Activities and attended many seminars. She has attended workshop on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Youth Psychosocial Health Issues, Media: the lost healer. Stop becoming a victim of terror and Voice of Frail’s; organised by Dar-ul-Sukun.
Editor: Mr. Wakeel Murad
Resentment can be self-identified by looking into the signs; such as: the need for emotional health, stability, dignity in life patterns; such as: malingering in happiness while with a person to cover up the true feelings or speaking in a sarcastic or demeaning way or about the person. It can also be assessed through the visible aspect of agitation or dejection-related emotions, such as: feeling down, showing aggression without any valid reason or having bad dreams or teasing daydreams about a person.
- How to cope ourselves from negative automatic thought patterns overwhelm by other people’s actions?
- How to let rid of resentments?
- Keen perception about resentment:
The situation in which a person feels resented:
- It comes as a ego disaster
- Sensitive tendencies
- Retaliation (attacking the other individual)
- The more intensively you think over the situation, the worse your emotions will be.
- Feelings of exclusion leading to feelings of instability and getting bothered.