Myth: If I want to earn respect from others or society then aggression, being aggressive and bullying can help me to get what I think.
Fact: Bullying or hurting doesn’t help one to get respect. People usually don’t like a person who tries to dominate by showing his negative attitude or expressing aggression. If a person is unable to control on anger or handle criticism and release emotions through fighting or argument then others will not respect even if he is right on his perspective. On the other hand if he communicates his viewpoint in a polite way, others will be accepting his opinion more willingly and understand his needs as well.
Myth: Controlling anger is impossible. I can’t learn its management.
Fact: Person can’t always control or change the situation which he faces or how it makes him feel, but he can be in charge of his emotion and express it in suitable circumstances. And he/she can communicate about his feelings without being verbally or physically offensive. Even if somebody is pulling his buttons, he always has an option about how to act in response.
Myth: Managing anger is all about learning to repress anger.
Fact: Not getting angry is not a smart goal. Anger is typical, and it will come out despite of how hard one try to hold back it. Anger management is all about becoming alert of core feelings and needs and emerging healthier ways to manage being distress. Suppression of anger shouldn’t be a goal but to express it in constructive ways.
Importance of Managing Anger
Anger if express wrongly, it could be destructing healthy relationships, impaired judgment, lose sense of right and wrong deeds, failures in life and having negative impression on people. People may think that venting aggression is a better way but others don’t accept this expression immediately. One can’t justify aggressive behavior in a good way or not defend his viewpoint when anger ruled his brain or thinking ability.
- Negative impact on physical health. Worrying frequently about aggressive behavior increases high level of stress and tension that is damaging for health. Unremitting anger makes person more vulnerable to cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, increase cholesterol level, decrease immunity, sleep problems and high blood pressure.
- Uncontrollable anger impairs mental health. Extreme anger sucked mental energy hugely and make thinking negative, one find difficulty to focus on task, see the bigger picture, and live life happily. Anger can also lead to mental illnesses such as; stress, depression, and so on.
- Extreme anger damage career. Productive disagreement, inventive differences, and passionate debate can be healthy. Bombardment of criticism can only create distances among colleagues, supervisors, or clients and hurt their self respect.
- Anger creates conflicts in relationships. Anger can be harmful for our close relationships which we don’t want to lose at any cost. People usually don’t trust a person who remain angry in every circumstances, they don’t feel comfortable when talking or spending time together