Written by:
Duaa Sarfraz

Arguments arise in every relationship, be it; a couple, siblings, and generally, in any possible relationship. Although, arguments are not limited to someone you are related to, it could be anyone really. The degree of guilt is not as much when it comes to someone you do not care about or a some stranger. So the arguments and the verbal fights with someone you are not related to or someone you do not care about, is not of much concern to us. We do not regret it. But when it comes to relationships it (regret) just does not go away.

Let’s look at couples, for instance. They fight, they argue, they know everything about each other so they use it in arguments, and not in a pleasant way either. Sometimes when arguments escalate, temper rises and it becomes more heated, you say some things that you wish you had not.

The regret, however, does not turn back time, you can only wish for that to happen. Simultaneously, when the heated conversations plummet defense mechanisms start working and you stop listening to what the other person has to say. It is all about invalidating the other person’s point of view and imposing your own belief. After the encounter, they stay away from one another until something spontaneous happens.

All close relationships tend to decay and excel. Scarring and decaying occurs when people constantly upset each other without resolving their problems. However, if these problems are resolved and the resolutions are used to overcome the differences, it can be a way to excel in a relationship.

For couples, (or generally every relationship) when excelling exceeds the decaying, it is obvious that the relationship will do extremely well. But if this turns the other way around, the relationship will go down the hill.

The damage takes place rapidly if the verbal abuse is particularly cruel or “below the belt,” because such insensitive behaviors create deeper wounds. It is essential for every couple to recognize which words or phrases can hurt the most, and the harm which may result from these. For love and trust to nurture more legitimately, couples must oblige to erasing trust-breaking foul language from their communications, regardless of how livid they feel.

An exercise to help dedicated couples discover their “below-the-belt” word, expressions, and manners, and distinguish how these can spoil their relationship. Once both partners are acquainted with the fact that they are safe from these torturing exchanges, they start to open up to one another in a fresh, new way. Are you stuck between what’s right and what comes out of your mouth in the heat of moment? Let’s see what each partner can do to help succeed in their relationship.