In the real world, people are not practically as idealistic or just plain ideal as they are in the pages of your favorite novel or in movie. People have bad habits, attitudes, and problems that avert a relationship from turning everything it could be. It’s simple, in a fantasy world “Anything He does is okay as long as He loves you.” In reality, when we take off the romantic glasses, this is a warning signals of a relationship that, if it isn’t already, is about to become toxic and unhealthy. This is not entirely related to women’s dealings with men. Both genders and all sexual orientations are evenly subject to this phenomenon.
Salma Basharat has completed her MSC in Behavioral Sciences from Fatima Jinnah Women University After completing BSC in Botany, Zoology and Psychology. Her areas of interest are mainly relationship counseling and addiction counseling.She is working with indoor as well as outdoor patients simultaneously with the aim of making difference in someone`s life and committed to the well being and restoration of her clients, facilitating them to evolve in a more tender way.
Editor: Samreen Masud
We have all come across toxic people in our life, but for those of us unlucky enough to practice a toxic relationship, you will understand how these feelings and symptoms mentioned above crept delicately into your relationship and started destroying it, and how excruciating it is to let the person go – predominantly because you will generally love them and care for them that little bit further because they have needed you and pulled you down at the same time.
No relationship is ideal, in the personal or the business field. But for the most part, healthy relationships makes you feel protected, happy, cared for, respected, and liberated to be yourself. On the other side of the story are toxic relationships–the ones that make you feel exhausted, depleted, and sometimes even hysterical. Any relationship in which you experience extraction of energy without deposits will leave you in the harmful. If instead of feeling happy and creative, you’re always mentally, emotionally, and even physically exhausted it’s time to have another look at. A relationship without trust is like a car without petrol: You can sit in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere. Continuous anger is a certain sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should never be around resentment because it makes you feel unsafe. A one-sided relationship can never run efficiently. In judgmental relationships, disapproval is not intended to be helpful but rather to disparage. Mutual dependability is important to constructing trust and is at the core of any healthy relationship. If the other partner’s interest in the relationship is really just a mirror image of him or herself, it’s not possible to attain any kind of equilibrium. It’s almost unattainable for anything helpful to come out of a relationship filled with negativity.