Over and over again parents question how they can produce an environment and atmosphere in their homes and in their interaction with their children that will foster their children’s capability to meet confronts and problems. The kind of discipline and order you use can have a big impact on your children’s..
Mostly there are three main important parenting styles that are generally used. What differentiate one from the other are the amount and type of structure and arraignment that the family has in their house. And the kind of control it enforce.
These three styles are called the
- Permissive style,
- Aggressive style,
- Assertive style.
The Permissive style that focus heavily on the look after role, but without offering enough structure.
In Permissive style of parenting Parents facing Disciplinary issues at home, begging for cooperation, unclear in their requests, worrying about children and always blaming themselves for every problem that occur.
When you largely use a Permissive style of parenting, your child does not learn to respect you, he is not held accountable for his behavior. He does not learn responsibility, nor is he encouraged to learn the tasks of everyday living that he will need as an adult. As a result, your child will not build healthy self-esteem. It also damages the relationship between you and your child. Your child will be less likely to turn to you for guidance in other situations in his life.
The Aggressive style of parenting relies heavily on the structure role, while not including enough caring and look after. A parent using this style refuses to listen to the child’s point of view at all and is typically unsympathetic, annoyed, and cold.
In Aggressive style of parenting Parents move violently, parents always dishonor child opinions, humiliating their children and always focusing on hard punishments and enforcing severely tough rules.
When you consistently use an Aggressive style of parenting, the self-respect of your child is spoiled because he does not feel understand or sustain. The parent-child relationship is weakened as your child would not feel that you are someone he could turn to if he had a problem. Children from these families often become either overly passive or disobedient.
In Assertive style of parenting Parents are mostly willing to listen and still grip solid so that the parent’s and the child’s needs are both essentially meet When setting restrictions, the parent does not get unfocused, can offer alternative, and allows the child and chance to contribute in finding a resolution.
In Assertive style of parenting parents always listening child point of view and give brief reasons of every things for child satisfaction and always shows hones feeling and not blaming the child and set rules that are flexible and easy to performs.
This style is most successful for many reasons because it uses a healthy balance of both look after and structure. It lifts your child’s confidence because you talk your child with respect. At the same time, you also communicate that your child is talented of meeting the demands that being places on him – he can tolerate some disappointment and he can contribute to resolve the troubles he come across. It builds a strong parent-child relationship,
Psychologist Arslan Saleem