Written by:
Hira Shahid

Who are those people who have a level of self-control which when put out to compete, erases almost everyone on the field?  They are the ones who are the fastest! Here we are not only referring to the physical aspect of their capabilities but also their mental sharpness and uniqueness that makes it possible for them to out run almost anyone around them.  Self-control when thought of as a skill that we all desire to have a little more than it already is.  It is not something that runs in a person’s bloodstream! One has to work on it! Sometimes you have to do things that you don’t want to & sometimes the things that you want to do are lined up in way that you know doing them will give you more harm than good.


Hira Shahid is working as a Clinical Psychologist in Willing Ways, Lahore since April 2017. She has done B.A Honors in English Literature with a minor in Psychology from Kinnaird College, Lahore. She did M.Sc in Clinical and Counseling Psychology from Beaconhouse National University, Lahore. She has done MS in Clinical and Counseling Psychology, Lahore.

Editor: Haroon Christy


There are no super human beings but some of us do possess the ability to do almost anything.  Go to lengths that aren’t apparently possible for us to; be mystical in our own way; getting things done at the rate of microseconds etc.  Research provides evidence of how people who get high grades have high levels of self-control & are better adjusted psychologically because they tend not to engage in alcohol abuse or binge eating as they are both problematic behaviors.

These are the people who make anniversaries & birthdays special by making hand-made cards & doing everything from scratch and in time so that they can make the other person feel how important their existence is in their lives.  To some extent you feel it is your birth right to be covetous of such people & you turn green with envy when they are appreciated and you’re not but this is where you need to understand why such people are high achievers and get things done in almost all walks of life.

Being high in self-control also has imperative benefits in romantic relationships.  For instance, couples who are both forgiving & responsive, & tolerant & trusting, have high levels of self-control.  This contributes to the presence of stability and satisfaction in their relationship.  Hence, there are lesser day-to-day disagreements and more trouble-free relationships.  This in return creates a realm of inner contentment.

If we look deep into the persuasive literature, it is safer to conclude that how presence of relationships with high levels of self-control or having a sensible level of self-control doesn’t simply let things go in the wrong direction.  However, there is a little downfall to this quality as well as nothing exists without being in pairs.  A new paper written by Koval et.al, explores others view of such individuals which is of high expectations.