It’s the mental health field that makes some of our clients worse
There’s a common belief in the addiction field that addicts have to “hit rock bottom” to be ready to accept the changes that they must to turn their lives around. The idea is that pure and utter desperation is necessary to finally see the light and improve. Sometimes that’s true, but most of the time it’s just because we’re late to the game. Drug and alcohol use are the end result of a neglected mental life, a shameful and unbearable existence that got pushed aside for too long. In the end we all want to feel better, to feel like we have peace and joy. When we can’t find it for too long, we’ll do anything to get there, even if it means putting ourselves at risk and hurting those close to us.
Dr. Adi Jaffe is an addiction treatment expert trained at UCLA. However, before he got involved in the field of addiction research and treatment, he was a drug dealer and meth addict himself. He incorporates his own personal experience with drugs and his over the top lifestyle into his treatment methodology. After being arrested 4 times and serving two stints in a rehab, he managed to get his life back on track. He has now published several articles and given several speeches on the subject matter of addiction. He now writes for Psychology.
Editor: Arman Ahmed
When shame takes a beautiful soul to it’s rock bottom
MK came from a beautiful, wealthy enclave in Southern California, but didn’t feel like she fit into her elite Ivy League college crowd. It didn’t help that her family was in pieces. She had been fighting with her overbearing mother since the age of five and her father wouldrage periodically, especially if he was drinking. Her cushy life and upbringing couldn’t protect her from feeling “less than” – less pretty, less prepared for life and less loved. She wanted a way to feel good, to keep those voices screaming “shame!” at bay. She found alcohol and marijuana and they worked. When she got high and drunk she felt more comfortable – talked to boys and fooled around with them. Life was exciting and fun when she was partying and things didn’t seem bad anymore.
But then her parents got involved because the drinking and weed were getting out of hand; MK was fighting with her mother all the time again and the leash was getting shorter. Her insecurity had her fumbling for the next step after and Ivy diploma, so she moved back home while she was figuring things out. We all know how much fun it is to live with your parents again, especially when you can’t stop getting at each other’s throats. MK now had to sneak in weed and alcohol just to make it through the days, she didn’t have anywhere else to go and had no more support to deal with the shame and the issues that were swimming in her head. Everyone was doing their best to help but everything was bathed in the horrible shame and dissatisfaction that now surrounded every aspect of her life. It felt like a dead-end, and she was beginning to fear that she would be trapped in hell forever. And that’s when she found nitrous oxide – a simple gas that turns off life for a few seconds and makes everything go away. When you’re high on nitrous you can’t think, you don’t hear and a perma-smile sits square on your face as you let reality slip away. THAT felt like relief. Leaving reality behind felt like the real vacation she craved. And she went all in.
Here is a video by Dr Sadaqat ali on the harmful effects of drugs
Dr. Sadaqat Ali talks about drug addiction & its adverse effects