In psychology self esteem person's overall evaluation or appraisal of own worth. It encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent", "I am worthy") and emotions such as despair, pride and shame.
Factors contributing to healthy Self-Esteem
Childhood experiences that lead to healthy self-esteem include-
- Being praised
- Being listened to
- Being spoken to respectfully
- Getting attention and hugs
- Experiencing success in sports or school
- Having trustworthy friends
Factors contributing to low Self-Esteem
Childhood experiences that lead to low self-esteem include-
- Being harshly criticized
- Being yelled at, or beaten
- Being ignored, ridiculed or teased
- Being expected to be "perfect" all the time
- Experiencing failures in sports or school
Symptoms for Individuals with Low Self Esteem:
- Unable to accept any compliments.
- Self critical remarks; takes blame easily.
- Sees self as unattractive, worthless, or a burden, unimportant;
- Lack of pride in self grooming.
- Has difficulty in saying no to others;
- Easily assumes not being liked by others.
- Fears rejection of others, especially his or her peer group.
- Setting inappropriately low goals for self.
- Unable to identify positive things about self.
- Very Uncomfortable in social situations, especially in large groups.
Self esteem related to speech problems
People with low self-esteem were often given messages that failed experiences (losing a game, getting a poor grade, etc.) were failures of their whole self.
Speech difficulties and disorders often make the individuals who suffer from them feel frustrated, angry and even ashamed of their inability to speak “correctly”. Unfortunately, speech difficulties and disorders can also mark individuals out for taunting or bullying which, when combined with the negative emotions the individual is already experiencing, can serve to greatly reduce their self-esteem.
Listening to the speech of others, teaching others about their speech difficulties, dealing with a bully and even joining local support groups can all help take the stigma out of speech difficulties and disorders and help restore individuals’ self esteem.
Listening to the Speech of Others
Very often individuals with speech disorders are so concerned about their own speech that all they can hear is their own lisp, stammer or other speech difficulty. What these individuals are missing out on then is hearing the speech of others. When they really listen, they come to know that not all people actually speak fluently and efficiently at all times. Most people have difficulty in finishing their thoughts, constructing full sentences, avoiding saying “um” or “uh” and show a variety of other inefficient speech patterns in any given conversation. When individuals with speech disorders recognize this, they may no longer feel so isolated due to their speech.