The most annoying and the most common reply when we write about the children of strict parents is that they say that we just did "only" verbal abuse. Culture could not understand these things as good as science does. It is commonly said that if you’re not bleeding or physically maimed, you’re not really hurt. Why is it that, as a culture, we’re so hardy in admitting the influence of verbal hostility? It’s taken much exertion to assure people that the torment in the schoolyard isn’t a “normal” part of growing up.

There’s still substantial uncertainty about admitting that “normal” sibling enmity can become harassment in the living room. Domestic violence which often requires indication of physical trauma considered as genuinely damaging. There is a report from the American Academy of Pediatrics which define psychological maltreatment of children only 14 years ago. Their definition is “Psychological mistreatment of children happens when a person delivers to a child that he or she is valueless, imperfect, unloved, undesirable, endangered, or only of worth in fulfilling another’s needs.” Verbal abuse is so much damaging that even children wished that they had been beaten and their scars could be prominent to others and people could believe them then.

Amina Javed 00Ms. Amina Javed is working as a Clinical Psychologist at Willing Ways, Lahore. In 2015, she completed her MS in clinical psychology, from Centre Clinical Psychology, University of the Punjab, Lahore. She had training of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, Behavior Therapy and she is interested in Dialectic Behavior Therapy as well.

Editor: Nadeem Noor

Our words has strength and they could heal us or they could leave wounds on our souls. They can take us up and could put us down in a whirl. We need to learn about the verbal abuse specially if you are parent or even just a member of the human race. Verbal hostility and abuse can be part of any close relationship or friendship but it could also shows up in the office and in another place for adults, and many more places for children. Here’s the science of why you and I should not ignore it.

The Process of Physical and Emotional pain appears to be the same.

Neuroimaging in a series of experiments conducted by Naomi L. Eisenberger and others showed that the same process is linked with the emotional factor of physical pain was triggered when participants felt socially omitted. In another experiment the parts of the brain which were involved with both affective and sensory components were testified. They enrolled 40 people who had been the victim of an unsolicited and upsetting romantic breakup.  MRI scanning was used and they inquired participants to look at a photo of their ex and precisely think about how they felt rejected. Then they had the participants and they were asked to look at a photo of a friend having same gender as their ex and think about pleasurable moments they’d enjoyed with each other. Pain tests were also run to the participants one a “hot trial” that actually hurt and one a “warm” test that had sufficient heat to cause feeling but not distress.

The result showed that similar parts of the brain brighten when the gone love and refusal were remembered as when the hot trial was performed to the forearm. This is a road to be further discovered but it would seem that emotional and physical agony are very much the identical.